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Happy Galentines Day! I don’t get to celebrate it properly as my bestie @syn_stuff literally lives at the other end of the country but I do get to spend it planning how my new girl gang (details coming soon!) is going to take over the world (well, educate, elevate and empower each other and others). I can’t promise that we’re as cool as these punk queens but I feel so privileged and excited about the journey we’re about to embark on together 🌊🌊🌊 #galentinesday #happygalentinesday #girlgang #womensupportingwomen #useyourprivilege #chrissiehynde #debbieharry #vivalbertine #siouxsiesioux #polystyrene #paulineblack

Nine years of this majestic beast who taught me how to be a mother. Happy Gotcha Day Benny Boy! #benthedog #happygotchaday #gotchaday #rescuedog #rescuedogsofinstagram #cypriotrescuedog #adoptdontshop

I’ve been struggling with sleep (or lack of) for a few months now like every other parent in the world and today I felt like I didn’t stop moaning all day. But everyone I spoke to was so kind and supportive and it’s made me realise just how lucky I am to be surrounded by wonderful women who support and uplift each other with no judgement and always with a cup of tea. I’m also lucky that I have a breastfeeding support group on my doorstep and @do.it.like.a.mother_hq down the road. I was so worried about having a baby in an area where I felt like I had no friends but it really does take a village and it turns out that my village is here in Southend. Thank you #abetterstartsouthend and @intheclubmidwifery for listening to me moan today and @lizzie.cakeclub for everything you do for the community, you’re all amazing ♥️ #ittakesavillage #doitlikeamother #breastfeedingpeersupport #motherssupportingmothers #attachmentparenting #normalisebreastfeeding #cakeclub #feministmothering #feministparenting

As it’s Januhairy, I’m throwing it back to a blog post I wrote in 2018 about body hair (link in bio). As a fair, feminine presenting, cisgender woman, I have the privilege of choosing not remove my body hair that many others do not have. Although at this point it’s not a conscious choice not to shave my legs, just sheer laziness. I get to give up shaving as I have about 6 hairs under my arms and sparse leg hair. In fact, I gave up shaving under my arms after giving birth as it didn’t appear to grow in the immediate aftermath and I wanted to see what happened. Turns out, not a lot and I’m now quite fond of the six little stragglers! 📷: @stickycookiie #januhairy #stickycookiie #illustration #bodyhair #bodyhairdontcare #leghair #armhair #mybodymychoice #feminist #blogpost #blog #blogger

What a morning and what a group of women! Today felt like the beginning of something pretty special with an incredible group of women and I feel more inspired and galvanised than I have in a long time. To be in a room with other women, who not only want to see the change you want to see but want to work with you to make it happen, is pretty fucking amazing. And if you couldn’t make it this time, we’re only just beginning! ♥️💪♥️ 📷: @pyrite_design #pyritedesign #nikitagill #illustration #southend #southendfeminists #essex #essexfeminists #feminism #endgenderbasedviolence #endwhitesupremacy #endausteritynow #fuckthetories #fuckboris #supportyoursistersnotjustyourcisters #womensupportingwomen

Rudy is six months old today and that means we are six months into our breastfeeding journey. When I was pregnant, I knew that I wanted to try to feed him but I knew that there could be many obstacles to this. We’ve been so lucky to have had ongoing access to support from professionals the whole time, something that is missing for so many people who struggle to feed. England has some of the lowest rates of breastfeeding in the world with 80% of women stopping before they want to and that can be attributed to misinformation being shared (you can definitely have a drink!), lack of training for professionals, lack of support for mothers in those early days and ongoing (the first 6-8 weeks are the HARDEST), and a lack of supportive environment either at home and/or in public. Me? I’m happy to get my boobs out in public to feed my baby but society isn’t moving fast enough to enable women to feel empowered and know their rights (legally, no one can tell you to cover up). I thought breastfeeding was the practical thing to do for my baby and I felt very pragmatic about it but I had no idea that I would enjoy it and treasure these moments as much as I do. They’re ours and only ours and I look at him and know that his strength and growth is down to me. I’m proud that Rudy is one of the 1% of babies who are exclusively breastfed at six months old but I’m also angry and disappointed that more isn’t being done for others who would like to do the same but don’t necessarily have the access to advice and support or have been encouraged to feed their baby in other ways by well-meaning others. #sixmonthsold #breastfeeding #normalizebreastfeeding #normalisebreastfeeding #badassbreastfeeder #exclusivelybreastfeeding #ebf #ebfbaby #silverboobies #rudywilson

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